Take That, You Bully!
Each of us has a different mindset for the world. It is built around the events and experiences with some quirks that are innate to the core of our unconscious mind. We can have an aggressive side and a passive side, for example. In this instance, the bully or victim comes out. The bully takes the struggle to a level where they can rule over others through superior knowledge or confidence. The victim gives control to the ruler of the situation and the choices are left to submit or fight to gain some kind of advantage. Yet, we are capable of having different areas were we excel and become the aggressor while possessing the passive side in areas that we are less adept.
It is not terrible to be in either place. It is necessary to let those capable handle their expertise. A fine example is that I am quite skilled with handling my children when another parent might not handle my children. I also depend on the police and military to protect society because I am not very skilled in this area. It is a give and take.
So, that brings me to the point of this. When you are stepping into an arena of conflict or debate, you must have confidence in the answer to a question. If you are not confident in this, the debate is already over. A boxer wins or loses in the first moments of the fight based on the ability to possess the confidence to win. It is also something that must be held throughout the contest. The same comes when you enter an argument or debate with someone. Without confidence in your thoughts, you should step out quickly or you will lose before it starts.
The clash of confidence can be very exciting to the spectators as the test of wills centers the contest. There is no doubt that this kind of entertainment kept the great speakers of the Greeks and Romans busy for years. Cicero often used his speeches to defend a simple point or totally eviscerate an opponent. Great conspiracies against the Senate and People of Rome were defeated on the tip of Cicero’s mighty spear of words. Of course, if you read Cicero’s speeches, you know that he was completely confident that he is right. He was right about everything including Mark Antony.
Pericles stepped forward to give his speech about the foolishness of sending an army out to meet the Spartans. It was a great funeral oration that was recorded by a historian Thucydides that pieced together the speech at a later date. Pericles was very confident and quite correct in the foolish act. He spoke that his words should have been heeded and the army should have stayed in the walled city of Athens. Instead, they marched to their slaughter for no gain. He spoke that staying in the damn city would have best for all. The Spartans would not win while they were outside of the city. Of course, staying in the city caused diseases that overwhelmed the population including Pericles and surrender was finally offered. But at least he was confident in his speech about fighting the Spartans.
It is tongue-in-cheek, but the confidence of the brave and wise can hold through the fights until another finds your weakness. If that happens, either sit down or prepare for a long struggle. The value of the confidence is clear, but you must always remember that something out there is bigger. Be prepared.
At times, you can be the bully. Other times, you can be the victim. In the end, it is the idea of being true to your principles that matters. Do not step away from those principles and you will find some content with your actions.
I have entered this arena of debate and discussion with the confidence that I can support my ideas, theories, and thoughts. My blog is just that. It is mix of conditioning that confidence while test the resolve of others. So far, I have encountered a few worthy opponents that I would call friend after we are done. Thanks for conversation.