Who We Are Is What We Do
Each person in the world has experiences and turning points in a lifetime. Some experiences are common and shared by everyone. Perhaps they are not exact, but the event is given a common label. It comes in the first kiss or the event of a birthday party. The world is filled with so many combinations of variables that no individual can be the same. We are unique. Quite unique, even when the genetic make up is the same, we are individuals.
In twins, the connections can be very close. Almost to the point that we can seem them as the same person, but even then, they are two separate people. They have two different personalities. Their early lives may have been shared and the first moments may have been shared. However, it is the inner thoughts and drives that separate. Both may have a strong personal affinity to butterflies, but one takes the step to collect them. Both may like to read books, but one feels the desire to create his own writing. It is curious, but we make ourselves different.
This draws me to a couple of personal examples that have come to me recently. With the passing of Father’s Day, I had the moment when I spoke with my father and felt the connection with him. We have only recently come back into contact after many years of separation because of disagreements. It had taken nearly 18 years for me to actually want to speak to him. Now, we have found our common ground and understanding. Yet, when I was done speaking with him, I turned to my own son and wondered if I understand him any better than my father understood me. For the longest time, I had heard that my son was my clone and acted just as I did at that age.
I disagreed with that sentiment immediately because he may have some tendencies in his personality, but he is a different person. At times, he possesses a drive in his life that I wish I had had at that age. He may not know what he is going to do, but he has the skill to do it. He is a different person and I find that I want to know more. I do not want our understanding of each other to fall apart like with my father.
Another example from a personal experience that supports this idea of different experiences comes from my current employment. For the last few months, I have been working with my spouse on freelance writing through an online site. We have taken numerous assignments which are usually for web content. We have covered a wide spectrum of topics from online degrees to fishing trips. All this has brought me to a thought that many experiences waiting for people are out there.
The world is filled with a vast array of experiences and enjoyments that can change how we see things and how our personalities are shaped. Now, I am not saying that we need to be complete hedonists and explore every sensation and situation. It is the event that makes us the individual and these are shaped by the inner desires of our mind. If I wanted to experience the feeling of falling, I might explore sky diving. If I wanted to taste the spiciest food, I might try different restaurants in different cities. We can’t all become Epicureans of the modern day, but we can listen to our inner drives and make ourselves individuals.
For me, the desires that I hold are focused on a few things that I have not tried yet. I want to feel the success of finishing a novel. I want to sit at an outdoor restaurant and enjoy a long afternoon with my spouse. Other things that I have experienced I want to visit again. A summer baseball game at Wrigley Field would be the top of my list. A trip down a mountain river on a tube would bring me joy again.
As time passes in our lives, we each must remember that we are created from the events and memories in our lives. These experiences are the basis of our personality and we should never let it stagnant. Keep it fresh.